By Tom Kersten (adapted from a blog article July 17, 2016)

As any clinical psychologist will tell you… and I’ve spoken with many, do with that what you will… “the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior”. They then spend the next 20 minutes citing examples of how this isn’t always true… a behavior in its own right, so predictable it very nearly proves the point. Though inversely, as any analyst on Wall Street will be quick to point out, in the highly paid world of cover-your-ass finance, “past results are not indicative of future returns.” These two statements would appear to be at-odds with one another, similar to my own nearly perpetual bi-polar behavior… as I require constant instruction and yet I do not like to be told what to do… a perplexing conundrum, I admit. My default setting in situations such as these… and they come up with remarkable frequency, is to defer to any number of “advisors” among my circle of compatriots who will offer their musings, on a plethora of topics (see what I did there?)… most often unsolicited, slightly inebriated and in front of a TV, while playing a six-hour poker game. In this case – on the subject of the addictive nature of smoking – among my panel of unqualified “experts”, it was once suggested that, “quitting smoking is easy… I’ve done it 7 times”… a proclamation reminiscent of the movie Better Off Dead with the immortal words, “I’ve been going to this high school for seven and a half years. I’m no dummy.”

What does any of this have to do with baseball? Funny you should ask. In our league, containing players ranging in age from 18 to 78, bracketed into 5 age divisions…  the one with the most consistency, both in attendance and performance, 35+ on Friday nights, is also the one with the most “dads”, some with still young children in tow. Stick with me now, I’m bringing it around. While the older guys can play down with the younger guys, it does not work the other way around… leading to interesting and insightful comments that can be overheard – by those of us that move between divisions – during any pre-game warm-up. The younger guys, with their healthy nights out, tend to have “young” guy conversations like, “DUDE we got so wasted Friday night and then the stripper did this thing…” and so forth. The 45+ & 52+ guys, who tend to know their way around a tube of BenGay and a bottle of IcyHot (props to each of you for still getting on the field and doing the deed)… tend to have more “mature” conversations, like “my doctor started me on Lipitor and said I needed to lose 25 pounds… smart move man, my brother did that, made a world of difference… have you seen what my 401k is doing?… That’s awesome for you, trust me, retirement is great!”

Contrast these comments with the 35+ guys, playing on Friday night because Sundays are “family” days and we hear things like, “I won’t make it next week cuz I’m coaching my son’s travel team in a tournament… We’ll be out of town for the weekend camping… we’re gonna be in the Dells, hitting the water park with the kids next week… my arm hurts from throwing batting practice to 12-year-olds… Yeah? Well, try doing grown-ass men for 3 hours”… wait… What? This last one actually was spoken during a poker game, but I think you see where I’m going with this. These are the elusive chirpings of the American Male Dad in his natural habitat and as such, they’re not always going to come out coherently. The odd thing is this, even with all the obstacles facing these players… the time commitments of family, the stress of work and the injury rate over the course of the season… the Friday night teams are rarely short on players, argue infrequently with each other or umpires, play at an extremely high level and manage to do all this, often with kids in tow. Why should this be so? For your consideration, I submit… the word DAD-itude and the proper use of the “big piece of chicken.”

SIDENOTE: The video link here explains the average American household dynamic as put forth by one of today’s foremost marital philosophers, Chris Rock.

Now, I don’t know if DAD-itude is a new word or not… seems like any jackhole with a Wiki-account can create a new word these days… but it definitely isn’t a new idea. This term just refers to that positive, can-do attitude that a father brings to the table whenever he gets a bug-up-his-ass to get something done. When I was young… and yes it feels like a long time ago… my father was fond of saying, “there is a perfect tool for every job… but I don’t own any of them, so we’re gonna do it like this.” Which was invariably followed in close succession by, “now don’t ever try this yourself,” (he was rewiring an electrical outlet, without turning off the power) and “pay close attention cuz the doctor’s gonna want to know what happened,” (he was hanging a 12-point buck from the garage rafters using one pulley and an old set of my bicycle handlebars). Whenever I might venture to point out the inherent danger of said situation, he would always answer the same way… “relax, its gonna be fine”. Carrying sheets of drywall down the basement stairs at 13, “I don’t have much grip here, Dad”… “relax, its gonna be fine”. Wheelbarrowing rock from the driveway to the backyard at 15, “this handle feels like its gonna break, Dad”… “relax, its gonna be fine”. Cutting down a tree by pulling on a rope tied 40 feet up while he cuts the base with a chainsaw at 17, “you really think it’ll hit the open gate and miss the fence on either side, Dad?” … “relax, its gonna be fine” and… it was. In every one of these potential cluster&@#%$, the final outcome was exactly what my father had predicted. Now, there were some miscues… and those childhood memories almost always ended the same way as well, with some version of, “so… let’s not tell your mother about this, okay?” … And I never did, at least until recent years when the gray hairs and sore backs indicated that the statue of limitations had probably expired on our collective stupidity and letting some of these sneak out could be both healthy and bonding, running the risk of little more than eye rolls and a slow head shake from my mother in her easy chair.

SIDENOTE: This video link here is Bat Dad, a suburban father who embraced life in the car pool lane with grace and style… and a cheap Batman mask… truly inspirational DAD-itude.

I believe this is the attitude that gets players to the field and keeps us winning. Players who have the desire to compete, but have the wisdom to know that there is much more to life than winning the game at all costs. This insight and perspective are what sets teams apart from any I have known before. Now don’t hear what I’m not saying… if you take ball four and then pull your calf muscle in a slow jog to first base… there is literally, no limit to the amount of shit that will be heaped on you… right, Keith? And that is an enormous part of the camaraderie of a baseball team at its best… laughter as a bonding agent. Baseball is a sport built, not just for competition, but for contemplation and self-deprecation. Coach John Wooden said, “The best competition I have is against myself to become better”… and I would submit that he wasn’t just talking about sports when he said that.

SIDENOTE: This video link is comedian Heywood Banks and I don’t know why, but every time my children and I watch this, we can’t stop laughing… and yes, that is a toaster he is playing.

By Tom Kersten (adapted from a blog article July 7, 2016)

There are many things my wife does not understand… the appeal of Jim Carrey, for instance… possessing an intense hatred of the actor/comedian usually reserved only for third-world dictators, telemarketers and Jehovah’s witnesses… why our youngest daughter choses to stuff her candy wrappers into the cushions of the couch instead of throwing them in the trash can… “seriously little girl… are you THAT lazy?”… (HINT: the answer is yes)… and my wife will never… and I mean NEVER… understand the affection I have for the 1980 Sci-Fi classic film Flash Gordon… this movie’s “special effects” are so campy, its dialog so chopped and it’s acting so over-the-top, self-consciously pretentious… it borders on pathologically awesome. Take the opportunity… force yourself to bravely sit through the entire thing some time… it will change your perspective on the word… torturous.

Bravery, of course, comes in many forms. The very act of me writing the opening sentence of this article, in and of itself, is a monumental statement of personal courage on my part… death, an ever-present possibility, as that pillow quietly descends over my snoring pie-hole at 3:17am on some random Wednesday. After all, it’s an inevitable response in a household with four women… as no man is smart enough, handsome enough or funny enough to be worth enduring the nightly cacophony currently taking place in our slice of domestic tranquility… (note to self: get that sleep study scheduled… their patience, like the clock, is ticking). But of all these things, the one my wife least understands is why I would, at nearly 45 years old, be playing baseball against guys half my age… I know… seriously, where do these guys get off being 20 & 21 years old?… WTF??… [deep cleansing breath]… Ohmmmmm… Youth is wasted on the young… Ohmmmmmm… Youth is wasted on the young… [deep cleansing breath]. Why, she repeatedly asks, would I risk the likelihood of twisted knees, rolled ankles, swollen joints… why would I endure the arthritis in my spine, the tendonitis in my elbow and the tears in my rotator cuff for the… are you kidding me?… opportunity to take sharply hit ground balls off my chest and duck fastballs aimed at my head? Did I receive too many blows to the skull as a child? … And we all know the answer to that one is… Yes.

And we all know that men wear their injuries as badges of distinction… Like only slightly less-crazy versions of Edward Norton in Fight Club… Never talk about fight club!!!… giving a curt nod to the waiter serving him, who the night before had been pounding one another to a pulp… their cuts, bruises and scrapes a visual sign of newly found backbone and the fact that they refuse to go quietly into that goodnight… or perhaps more accurately and gingerly, like Nick Nolte waking up in the opening scene of North Dallas Forty, wincing in pain remembering each hit taken the night before… the pads, braces and pain-killers not nearly enough to mask it all… and slowly… quietly… itching to go back for more, to see if he can measure up to the challenge.

SIDENOTE: This video is the opening sequence of Burt Reynolds’ Hooper, as an aging stuntman tallies his scars while dressing for his next brush with immortality… a personal “guilty pleasure” of mine, this scene can only be described as vintage 1978 “pad-porn”.

An illustration of the massive divide in thinking between the female brain and the male brain, when it comes to this line of reasoning regarding sports, is to dissect one of the many typical conversations had by the average baseball player in this league and the spouse that loves him. As he finishes his Hooper-esque dressing and heads out the door to the game, it goes something like this:

Wife: “Have fun .” (Translation: Don’t hurt yourself!)
Husband: “Thanks.” (Translation: I’m not a moron!)
Wife: “Be careful.” (Translation: No… you’re an idiot!)
Husband: “I will.” (Translation: Dammit woman, don’t tell me what to do!)
Wife: “Love ya.” (Translation: I will tell you what to do, shit-for-brains!)
Husband: “Love ya too.” (Translation: Somebody get me a @%^$& beer!)

No??… Am I the only one?… That combined look of disapproval and condescension sweeping across her face as I head through the kitchen… My personal little ground zero in the estrogen-soaked hyper-pandemic sweeping the planet… Or am I just being paranoid? Is it paranoia if they really are out to get you? The real question is NOT if I’m being paranoid, the question is, am I being paranoid enough? Was that an Ambien she slipped me among all that Advil & Osteo-Bi-flex?… I accept this last one as a real possibility.

Now, before you send in your hate mail… remember, it all goes to: Brian Williams, 30 Rockefeller Plaza… kidding…kidding… JON STEWART FOR PRESIDENT!!!… I’m all for good communication, as much as the next guy… no, actually probably more than the next guy… in fact, good communication is one of the things I love about this game and one of the many needed elements for baseball success. This is a lesson our team learned early on several years back… mostly because we didn’t have much communication or success occurring at the time. My recollection of the characters and events goes something like this…

With a runner on first, and protecting a one run lead… for some still unexplained reason, Tony chose to pitch from the windup. No one missed it… as a former college basketball power-forward, now turned pitcher who could double as a tight-end on any football team… His delivery is somewhat of a force of nature. To say Tony has an intimidating presence on the mound, is an understatement so extremely monumental as to border on the absurd. From my position at third base, I simply thought, “well… that’s interesting.” I glanced over at Chad holding the runner on at first base… He shrugged, as if to say, “I have long ago given up on the idea of ever predicting what this team will do next.” Like I said… good communication.

The pitch rocketed in and was called a BALL by the umpire… a courageous act in its own right, based on the dirty look he got from the mound. The two umpires could not have failed to notice what was happening either… the base runner at first never moved an inch. The ball came back from Ean, the catcher and again Tony stood in on the rubber, ready to deliver the second pitch from the windup. The runner at first stood transfixed… with an expression on his face that read… I want to run… I know I’m supposed to run… But if I do, will he drill me with the ball or just tackle me between first and second, like some pharmaceutically enraged pitching version of Lawrence Taylor moments before snapping Joe Theisman’s leg live on Monday Night Football. Tony threw this next pitch even harder, apparently trying to force the ball through Ean’s glove, chest protector and body… and into the umpire, as punishment for the first pitch call. Again, BALL and again Ean stood, threw the ball back and crouched down to drop the next signal, like nothing was out of the ordinary.

Okay, I thought, they must be working on something… Am I witnessing two Jedi Masters at play… toying with the fragile emotions of runners and hitters alike? Are they baiting the runner to steal so they can pitch out and gun him down at second? Was there some kind of defensive signal on in this situation?… Do we have defensive signals? As manager, I should probably know that, shouldn’t I? See… quality communication all the way around.

Maybe Tony doesn’t want to pitch from the stretch or maybe his back is hurting a bit or that knee might be tweaked again… Who should come in if we need to take him off the mound?… How many innings does Dre have this week on his arm?… he pitched on Friday but only 2 innings… Or was it 3? I started doing something akin to baseball algebra… today is Sunday at 1pm and he threw on Friday late, like 10pm? Cuz the game started at…blah, blah, blah… So, if a train leaves Buffalo traveling 90 mph and another train leaves… My thoughts raced as I tried to analysis the proper move needed, not just for finishing this game but for the remaining games throughout the week. The variables and options flashing like a strobe light giving me a near-seizure and resulting in a big old brain cramp.

Just then Tony, a frown forming upon catching the ball being returned from Ean, froze on the mound. He stared at his catcher and almost yelling, almost scolding, said… “why are you letting me pitch from the windup? There’s a runner on first,” pointing over to the hapless base runner, who by now was so confused, he was looking for a hole he could climb into. Finding none, he made himself smaller by hiding behind Chad’s right leg at first base and suddenly became extremely interested in the dirt at his feet… Is this native Wisconsin dirt or did they truck this in for us? Fascinating… Ean slowly stood and took one step forward onto home plate. Without removing his catcher’s mask, perhaps due to fatigue, perhaps half expecting the ball to arrive at his head at any moment, yelled back… “I don’t tell you what to do, cuz I don’t want to be punched in the face.” For a long moment there was silence. I guess the Jedi Masters thing was a bit premature after all… Then laughter from everyone… Tony, Ean and the rest of our players… the opposing players and umpires, even the fans were now in on the joke… the guy on first still didn’t know what to do, but this was an early bit of our “awesome” coming into its own. We could take ourselves seriously, but we should never take ourselves too seriously. Communication lesson learned… let’s try talking to one another… what a novel concept.
 
I don’t remember the outcome of that particular game, but the season ended in our first Championship and all the subsequent success has been built from this basic concept: these are guys who love playing this game… the thrill of it and the pain of it… and we enjoy being out there together… finding the laughs, giving the shit and winning the games. All the titles, team-building and tacos that have followed is just gravy on the top… and no, my wife does not understand the appeal of any of it… much like my love of this clip.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvZshbvkolc

SIDENOTE: This video is Jon Stewart & Ricky Gervais from Valentine’s Day 2011… truly two Jedi Masters at play… may we never stop asking, “Why do raccoons have black eyes?”

By Tom Kersten (adapted from June 17, 2015)

To say that something is simple in concept is not to say that it is easy. Skydiving is simple… step out the door and gravity does all the work… but managing to not have to clean out your shorts 20 minutes later is by no means easy. As a sport, baseball has a very simple concept at its heart… the pitcher throws the ball and the batter hits it… Or not, whatever the case may be (our team did lead the league in strikeouts last year… and by a wide margin). Sorry guys, sometimes the truth… like our pride against the proctologist’s finger… truly hurts most of all. Among all the sports you can play, hitting a baseball is generally agreed to be the most difficult athletic endeavor anyone can attempt. In football, the quarterback calls the play, reads the defense, knows the pass route and has the ball, literally in the palm of his hand; choosing the timing, speed & direction of the pass. In the NFL, the success rate is so high that completing only 50% of all passes gets most guys fired. In basketball, the odds of success increase at an even greater rate as teams with dismal shooting from the field make 40% of their shots, with superstars hitting 75% and even “bad” free-throw shooters average a 65% success rate; the best in the business over 90%. In hockey, ever the sniveling little brother to the other major America sports, players have tremendous control over their speed, degree of turn and positioning on the ice prior to the puck being delivered, usually from a teammate trying to put it “right on the stick”… then the player has the opportunity to place the puck, exactly where it needs to be on the blade or for the slap shot, timing the wind-up with the puck moving slightly or completely still but matched perfectly with the player. Tennis… don’t even get me started on the size and composition of these rackets… where are the purists??… begging for a return to the days of wood and skill. While the modern game is frantic with movement & speed, it maintains controllable ranges and options for the player to reach and return the ball in all but the most powerful ground strokes… points continuing sometimes for 45 seconds or more before a decisive shot can be made. Forget soccer… even the World Cup at its best has become a nightmarish flop-fest of boredom, only occasionally broken by rioting and tear gas, I’m assuming against the mere thought of having to sit through any more of that mess… and golf, barely acknowledged to even be a “sport” by most baseball enthusiasts, actually places the ball on a tee… a TEE!!!… unmoving… with ALL the known variables of wind, distance, direction and obstacles placed in front of the athlete for careful manipulation. The best golfers in the world are so good at controlling these variables on the course, though apparently not off of it, that they can spin the ball on contact, dropping it the required distance BEHIND the hole and allow the spin to pull the ball back to where they want it to be positioned for the next shot. Even discounting the wide array of jokes regarding balls, shafts, dimples, strokes, clubs, holes, rims, cups, shanks, short-cuts, long-roughs and pounding woods… they still make par, on the most difficult courses in the world, an astounding 80% of the time on the PGA tour.

Compare this to a baseball player standing at the plate. As Ted Williams put it, “the hardest thing to do is to hit a round baseball with a round bat, squarely”… not discounting the remarkable feats of athleticism some individuals are capable of under carefully controlled conditions… no other sport provides so little control to the player, in this case the hitter, while simultaneously having so many variables in flux. It’s the pitcher who has the control in this co-dependent relationship, choosing the pitches’ movement, speed, location and timing… even throwing from an elevated position to help increase velocity and accuracy. The batter has such a minuscule amount of power over the outcome of events that, as has been commented on repeatedly over the past 150 years, a Hall of Fame hitter will fail… FAIL… nearly 70% of the time. Tom Hanks summed this dilemma up well in A League of Their Own when he said, “If it was easy, everyone would do it… It’s the hard, that makes it great.” This quote is nearly always followed by another Mr. Hanks classic, “there’s no crying in baseball”… a seemingly simple lesson that far too many players need to relearn, but that discussion will follow later… much like the inevitable results of that late night trip to Taco Bell.

SIDENOTE: The video link here is from Youtube… Earth’s one-stop superhub of fraudulent, super-edited videos (some included in this clip) and extreme douchebaggery… (yes, it could be a word… it’s not, but it could be… if we all agree to use it often enough, Webster’s will simply create it and put it in, just like they did when SaraH Palin crank-cobbled “refute” and “repudiate”… then tried to justify her use of the then non-existent “refutiate”. PALIN 2028!!!

Considering all of the challenges facing hitters, it’s a wonder why so many continue to try and reinvent the wheel, like a 4 year-old jamming that square peg into that round hole in that… whatever-the-hell you call that thing… with all the shapes in it… never mind! These players repeat again and again the same mistakes, refusing to take corrective advice, swinging harder and harder, hoping to get a different result. This is the very definition of insanity. They routinely violate the basic fundamentals of hitting as continually passed down through generations from the greatest hitters of every era. From Honus Wagner’s bowlegs to Ty Cobb’s split hands… Lou Gehrig’s endurance, Joe DiMaggio’s streak, Jackie Robinson’s fearlessness, Mickey Mantle’s power, Willie Mays’ consistency, Ted Williams’ fluidity, Rod Carew’s calm demeanor and Pete Rose’s hustle; each man made hitting an art form utilizing his own skills, knowledge and disposition. From George Brett’s wide open stance to Robin Yount’s extremely closed one, Tony Gwynn’s fast hands… as he learned to love the inside pitch to Derek Jeter’s durability covering the outside corner… each hitter, regardless of where their feet, hands and head begins; everyone…. EVERYONE…. Has to arrive at the same place when the ball arrives at the plate. Back foot planted, front foot turned, hips rotated, shoulders square, hands in, chin down and eyes on the ball.

These are the fundamentals that all great hitters have in common and as each of us struggles with the frustration of mid-season lapses in performance, we should remember that those struggles are caused by OUR own violation of one or more of these basic principles. These are the variables that we as players have under our control and this is where our energy and attention should be focused… though the occasional glance at that massive rack in the tight, white t-shirt in row 3 is TOTALLY understandable… ala “front row Amy” at Miller Park… I mean, that girl is… Wait… what?

Okay… shaking that off… there are many facets to good all-around team ball… a solid offense is rarely enough… especially against quality opponents. A coherent and tactically efficient defense is crucial to overall success, as it saves pitchers arms, which no team has enough of at any point in the season. Unfortunately, it is many times easier to allow an opponent to score with poor defense than a team can usually produce themselves at the plate, even with quality at-bats by skilled hitters. Bad hops and questionable base running are to be expected… like a 16 year-old on prom night, sometimes nothing seems to be going you’re way. Everyone has the right to make a mistake, but some of us are abusing the privilege. There are basic fundamentals to fielding and running, if you don’t know them, consult the magic box… that’s the goggle link on your smartphone, not the special name for your girlfriend’s snatch.

As the name of this article implies, I’m focusing on a simple secret to success… not the only one, maybe not even the most important one… but merely one among many that could be helpful and I will use an old story to illustrate the point. When a reporter asked then Head Coach Jerry Glanville of the Atlanta Falcons in 1991, why he was keeping an underperforming kid, he had sworn he would never play, on the team’s roster as a third string quarterback, Glanville simply tossed a ball to the rookie and said, “Mississip, show him why you’re still here.” The then unknown Brett Farve cocked his arm and threw the ball onto the roof of the stadium’s third deck… Glanville simply looked at the reporter and said, “that’s why.” The coach recognized the potential of that million dollar arm but was unimpressed by the ten cent head it was attached to and was unwilling to wait for the latter to catch up to the former. Glanville coached just long enough to regret his decision to trade Farve to Green Bay the following year and that as they say is history… And the lesson to be learned here, as Kevin Hart is fond of saying in his stand-up, “You do you, boo… you do you.” In other words, take care of your own shit… do the things you can do and do them well… control the variables YOU have control over, in order to

put YOUR best game on the field, without complaining about the strike zone, field conditions or over-reaching beyond your skill level and the universe will work out the rest. Legendary poker commentator and author Mike Sexton was fond of reminding players, “you can’t win the tournament on the first day, but you can lose it on the first day,”… baseball works much the same way… you can’t win the game on one play, but you sure as hell can lose it on one play.

Ahhh the hell with it… I’m going for tacos!!!